Thursday, December 22, 2016

WEDDING NOTES™ - You May Now Kiss the Bride



How did this phrase become part of the wedding ceremony?  Lots of folk lore surrounds THE KISS.
Some experts date it back to classical Greece and the tendency of men to want to make sure that the ladies were not drinking wine before the ceremony.  A kiss on the lips helped to reassure the groom that his wife to be was not wanton.

More likely the tradition rose out of the medieval ceremonies in which the presiding clergyman would give a symbolic kiss to the groom at the end of the marriage ceremony to indicate the solemnity of the ceremony just completed.  Then the groom would kiss his bride to seal the marriage contract.  The priest and the groom would then kiss the attendants and they would all move on to the guests who were each kissed in turn.  This was likely the source of all the kissing and hugging that goes on at weddings today.

Many western European cultures believed it was lucky for a bride to see a chimney sweep on her way to church - especially if the sweep stopped to wish her well.  If he chose to kiss the bride's check, she was guaranteed a happy life.  To insure a happy life, many sweeps found themselves with lucrative part time jobs - kissing new brides.

We know that in the Middle Ages, many people were illiterate unable to sign their names and instead put an X in its place.  No legal documents were considered legal without that X.  To show good faith, they would kiss the X in the same way they kissed the Bible when taking an oath.  With time, the X became the symbol of the kiss. 

No one is quite sure when the O was added to the X, but we now have XOXO etc. as the shorthand for hugs and kisses.

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