Tuesday, August 16, 2016

WEDDING NOTES™ - Bridal Veils

At one time no bride would consider her look complete without the all important veil.  Then for a period, veils faded from use and some brides considered hats, feathers, hair jewelry, tiaras without veils and fresh flowers.  All of those can be lovely but many of us lamented the disappearance of the bridal veils.

We are seeing a resurgence of interest in veils and a generation of brides who need to become reacquainted with them as an important fashion statement and a magnificent part of the wedding costume.

Veils have always been a symbol of youth and virginity.  At one time, the veil was not lifted until the bride was a legally married woman.  Even today, in some cultures this remains the very first time the groom "sees" his bride.

We remind our brides that they have options.  You may continue the tradition of wearing a "blusher" veil over your face until the clergyman pronounces you "husband and wife".  At that point either the groom or you honor attendant will lift the veil.

If you prefer you can have it lifted earlier in the ceremony just after your father (or whomever has walked you down the aisle) has placed your hand in the hand of your groom.  At this point the groom may lift the veil giving you both good eye contact as you exchange vows.

If you are having a double ring ceremony, your honor attendant can lift your veil before handing you the groom's ring.

You may choose to wear a veil of any length and forego the use of the "blusher" that needs to be lifted.  That seems less cumbersome to many brides and does away with the risk of disturbing the headpiece that secures the veil in place.

When selecting your important wedding gown, ask your consultant to suggest a veil to complete the look.  Many brides choose to wear a veil for the ceremony and remove it for the reception.  Your consultant can suggest many ways to make a veil detach from a gorgeous headpiece if that is your choice.

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

WEDDING NOTES™ - Rehearsing

We are always amazed by brides who don't think they need a rehearsal.  If they have been in several friend's weddings as bridesmaids, they think they can skip their own rehearsal.  They are convinced they can just show up on the big day and everything will go fine.  But we always remind them that they are about to produce, direct and star in a major production.  No Broadway show goes live without weeks of rehearsal.  The wedding ceremony should not either.  We are convinced that to be sure everything goes smoothly during your wedding a rehearsal is necessary.  Officiants agree and for most churches, rehearsals are required.

We believe that the bride and groom with their attendants (which include the bride's parents or whomever is walking her down the aisle) should take the rehearsal seriously, arrive on time and be properly dressed.

At one time brides chose a stand in for the rehearsal thinking it was unlucky for her to actually say any of the words of the ceremony before the actual event.  Obviously that has changed and now the bride and groom take their places at the altar.  It is unlikely that the clergyman will go through the entire service and readings, but will walk through the sequence of events.  Most will let the couple go through their responses if they wish.

As well as practicing the processional and recessional and going through the service so that attendants know where to stand or sit, ushers need to be briefed on who will sit in the reserved section of pews and how the other pews are to be filled.  Other details like who will roll out the aisle cloth and when, who will escort the mothers, who will make sure any candles are lit and when, and who will do any emergency pew or altar decorations in the unlikely event that the florist does not will be covered in the rehearsal.

If special music is to be played, a poem read or non-traditional vows spoken, those should be practiced at the rehearsal too.

The groom's parents should be invited to attend especially if they are to have a role in the ceremony.  If they are not playing an active role in the ceremony they can be excused from rehearsal since they will probably be hosting the rehearsal dinner to follow and would prefer to be at that location attending to last minute details.

Sunday, July 31, 2016

WEDDING NOTES™ - Consider His Size

Formal wear has come a long way!  The variety of styles and colors and importantly SIZES has made it possible to accommodate men of all sizes and make them look good in the process.

While we know that couples have a vision of their wedding - style and colors coordinating - the reality for many weddings today is that at least one or more of the male members may be "bigger than life" and need some TLC when size and style selection are considered.  Experienced formal wear specialists know that certain styles compliment larger men.  They know that darker clothing- black or darker shades of gray or brown or navy, are the best choices for these men.
We suggest pants that do not accentuate fullness.  Yes, pleats do give more room but they do not always flatter a bulkier bottom or hip area.  Pants should always hang straight and break at the top of the shoe's heel.

We find that more men are choosing vests over cummerbunds.  They are making that choice for comfort as well as style.  If top coats are discarded in the heat of the day or for dancing at the reception, a full coverage vest can insure that the men in the party still look coordinated.  A solid black or dark colored vest will look much better on a large size man.  A lay down collar and a trendy tie will give balance to someone with a wide upper body.  Similarly, a larger man generally looks better in a simple one button style jacket.

As the bride and groom select the formalwear style for their wedding, we remind them to consider the shape and size of the various men in the wedding party. With the wide variety of styles and colors available to you from many vendor resources, our formal wear experts can be your best friends as you create the wedding of your dreams.

Whatever the size of the men in your wedding party, you can be comfortable knowing  that our formal wear experts can make everyone look their best on the important day and in your photographs.

Saturday, July 30, 2016

WEDDING NOTES™ - Blooms and Greenery

The floral arrangements you choose for your wedding ceremony and reception are likely to be the most important accessories of the events.  Know that before you select individual blooms, what most people notice first is COLOR - then they notice arrangements and individual flowers.  So before you consult with a florist on the details, decide on what colors you want for your wedding.  Here are some color considerations.

1.  Look at the locations for your ceremony and reception.  What colors are on the walls?  Do you want to contrast or blend?  What are the rules and regulations from your church or ceremony site?  Do they specify size and/or placement?  What kind of lighting is available?  If there are lots of windows and you are planning a daytime ceremony, pale colors may wash out.  In dimly lit evening weddings, try to use warm colors like red, orange and yellow.  Warm colors are said to reflect light better, while cool colors like blue, purple and green tend to recede into darkness.

2.  What effect do you want to create?  If you want drama, color theorists tell us to use contrasting hues like red and chartreuse green.  If you want a more subtle and sophisticated atmosphere, experts say to consider sequential colors (those are the ones next to each other in the color spectrum).  Or you can choose a one color palette, but then pick flowers with different sizes and textures so that the result is not a flat one dimensional thing.  If you don't have a clue where to start, go to a hardware store and look at paint samples.  Collect samples of colors that you like.

3.  Consider the style of your wedding when selecting blooms.  If you are planning a casual country event, you will want to bypass formal elegant orchids.  If you are planning a formal black tie event, you will want something other than daisies and sunflowers.

Let our wedding planning experts help you with this important aspect of your special day.

Sunday, July 24, 2016

WEDDING NOTES™ - Long Term Couples Renewing Vows

While weddings remain our primary focus, we are finding more couples planning to celebrate renewing their wedding vows.  Whether the couple is celebrating milestone weddings of10, 20 or 25 years together, we think it is a wonderful event and have plenty of ideas to help couples plan that special day.

This ceremony is popular with couples who may have eloped or were married in a no frills civil ceremony.  The official term is "reaffirming" wedding vows.  The gathering may be just family or it may be a celebration for friends and family alike.  It may be held in a church or your home or a garden or a hotel or restaurant.  It is a time for celebrating the life you have made together.

Guests are invited with small informal notes or personal phone calls if the ceremony is to be low key.  A larger celebration may include printed invitations that include ceremony and luncheon, brunch or dinner invitations.  It is still considered inappropriate to print "no gifts" on the invitations should you decide to send them.  Count on word of mouth or your website to let friends know your wish for no gifts.  Gifts are not expected for the vows renewal celebration, however some guests will continue to do so.  Accept any gifts graciously and do acknowledge them with a hand written thank you note.

Couples may choose to repeat the vows they spoke on their wedding day (if they can remember them) or they may wish to write new ones that reflect how their love has grown and matured over the years.  If the renewal is to take place in a church, the officiant will be able to help with the ceremony design.

Dressing up for the event is important and symbolic.  We can help you with the selection that will meet with your plans for the event.  We also have good ideas to help you plan the special day and create more memories.