Although it still remains the guide for many people, most
experts today would urge wedding guests to forget the "Price-per-plate
rule". Your gift is not the ticket
for admission to the event. It is your
present to the couple and should be tied to your relationship to the bride and
groom - not to how much they paid for your meal.
One recent bride made the news - both broadcast and email -
by sending a bill for two dinners to a guest at her wedding who RSVP'd in the
affirmative but then did not attend due to a family emergency. Who could have guessed that bad manners are
that prevalent? Not me!
Here are some guidelines that are pretty well endorsed for
today's guests.
If you are attending the wedding of a coworker or boss -
suggested gift level - $75 - $100
If it is the wedding of a neighbor or casual friend - $75 -
$450
If it is the wedding of a friend or relative - $125 - $1,000
If it is a close friend or relative - $100- $175
If you have to spend money on airfare and/or hotel - you can
spend less on the gift. ($50-$100)
As a guide, $50 is the usual minimum. Of course, different areas of the country may
have different norms. Important to
remember - It still is not ok to ask for
gifts of money, but it is acceptable to give money.
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