Wednesday, April 2, 2014

WEDDING NOTES™ – MORE QUESTIONS FROM BRIDES

One huge topic that brides want to talk through with our consultants is the issue of BUDGETS.
Most brides have a long list of things they'd like/want and that list has been assembled before the question of how those items will be paid for has been addressed.  They ask us these basic questions.

If my parents and future in laws are contributing to wedding expenses, do they get a say in how I spend the money?
They certainly do!  Some parents will give you the money with no instructions or restrictions, but some will prefer to sponsor or fund a particular aspect of the wedding.  Some may wish to host the reception in its entirety.  Others may wish to pay for the bar only. Your role is to make sure that if there are preferences that you and the groom make that work by consulting with the donors as you meet everyone's needs.  If parents are giving you a set amount of cash toward your wedding, it makes sense to try to receive the money as early as possible and then invest it in a short term CD where it may earn at least a little interest in the interim.

No one has offered to help us pay for any part of the wedding.  Is it ok to ask?
It is, but do try to do so graciously.  You and your fiancé may meet individually with each set of parents and share with them your plans for the wedding.  After you have reviewed everything you have so far, it is appropriate to ask if they would be interested in helping you to fund any part of the day.  You might suggest that funding the flowers or the photography or the cake or the band would be in lieu of a wedding gift.  If there is no interest - so be it.  Regroup and rethink your budget.  That's where working with one of our consultants can prove valuable.

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