You are to be married.
You are happy. But with all of
the details and decisions you must make, you are also feeling stress. You ask yourself - "How can I feel
stress when this is a special time?"
Guess what - you have the wedding jitters! And it is not unusual.
To relieve your stress or at least manage it, we suggest the
following:
1. If money issues
are causing the stress take the time as a couple to determine and reaffirm your
priorities. Review the items of most
importance to both of you. Make a list
of the top 10. List them in order of
most important to less.
Take the top five - in priority order - and know that these are the
items on which you are less likely to compromise. Then review your budget. You "borrow" from the other items to
keep your budget in balance. If you have
your heart set on a particular gown, you can help pay for it by saving money on
flowers, revisiting the reception plans or reviewing your plans for wedding
favors.
2. If the stress you
feel is coming from family, be clear about the source and then deal with
it. Be honest about your feelings. Talk out the issues with your parents,
friends and those involved. Be gracious
but firm about expressing your views and concerns. Don't "stuff" the feelings so that
they end up hurting the relationship.
3.If the stress is coming from the crush of events and the
sense of being overwhelmed by everything you know should be done, SHARE the
responsibilities. Hire a wedding
planner, enlist the groom, ask parents to take over specific jobs. Get yourself a wedding planning book and be
faithful about entering plans as they are made.
Be aware of workable schedules that are suggested.
4. Get enough sleep
and take care of your health. Eat well. Use your gym membership and exercise away the
stress.
5. When it all seems
too much, come in and speak with our experienced consultants. They can help you put it all in perspective
and remind you of what is really important in this wedding you are planning.
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