WEDDING NOTES™ - A Very Big Party!

Your wedding ceremony is the most important part of your day!  No argument there.  But once that memorable event is completed, it is time to celebrate that extraordinary milestone.  That is what your reception is all about - thanking your guests for being part of this wonderful time in your lives and inviting them to help you celebrate.  This is the first time you greet family and friends as a married couple, so it is understandable that you want this first party to be unique, memorable and very special both for you and your guests.

Here are some guidelines to help you plan and deliver an event that will keep everyone talking.

* Give yourself plenty of time by planning your reception at least 9 - 12 months in advance - more if you have your eye on a specific venue that is very popular.  Hot spots can book 18 months in advance or longer.

*Unless you have previously attended a wedding reception at the venue of your choice, it always wise to ask facility personnel if you can observe another reception they are doing so you can see the flow of traffic and how the site handles set up.  Check the number of bathrooms available and the number of servers working the reception.

* Plan to serve food appropriate for the time of day- no dinner food for a 4 PM reception but certainly more than hors d'oeuvres at a 6 PM reception.

*Avoid a cash bar.  If your budget does not cover an open bar, serve something you can afford.  Charging for drinks is like charging a guest for dinner in your home.  You invited these guests.  Also, it is much better to demand that bartenders and musicians do not put out a tip jar.  All gratuities should be handled with the final payments.

* Be sure that musicians are clear about the type of music to play.  There should be a variety so that guests of all ages can enjoy dancing.  Make sure that your MC knows what and when introductions and/or announcements are to be made.

*Guests will continue to bring gifts to the reception.  Make sure that they are kept in a secure room and hire security for the evening if you have any doubts.

*While photos are a critical part of the day, try to make sure photo sessions are not too long and delay reception activities.