It may not seem like it to him, but the bride does worry
about her dad and how he is feeling as the entire family gets involved in
wedding planning. He may feel left out
or uncomfortable or just plain bewildered by all of the “hoopla” going on about
him. Our consultants often counsel
brides who ask about the father’s role.
While many may see him as the walking, breathing checkbook
for this event, his role is really more key.
His most important job is to be supportive of the bride’s decisions in
most areas. Certainly family discussions
will take place, but once a decision is made, Dad’s support is invaluable. He may think he is losing his little girl,
but she still needs his support.
His official duties as father of the bride include riding to
the ceremony with the bride (where appropriate). He escorts the bride down the aisle on his
right arm, and then joins his wife in the front pew (unless other arrangements
take precedence).
As the official host of the reception, he mingles with the
guests. He may or may not stand in the
receiving line. That is really his
call. Some dads like it and others do
not.
He generally keeps an eye on the bar and champagne supply
and makes a short toast at the reception.
Traditionally, he has a short dance with the bride after she
dances first with the groom.
Finally, he is the last person to leave the reception and
says goodbye to the guests.
He may still pay the majority of the wedding costs and sign
the bill for the reception, but in today’s weddings, many costs are shared.
His presence provides a sense of continuity to the event and
his love and support for his daughter is a comfort to all.
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