WEDDING NOTES™ – Under it All!

All brides look for a wedding gown that has the look and features that they want.  Whether simple or ornate, there truly is a gown “out there” for every bride.  The guidance of an experienced consultant who knows each designer’s specialty can put her in the perfect dress.  The hands of a skilled alterations expert can make the gown of choice fit beautifully.   But even those professionals can’t change body shapes.  We all sometimes need help with that.

Some designers construct a wedding gown with built in corsets.  That can come as a surprise to a bride from a generation that thought corsets disappeared with the end of the Civil War, but the designer who added the proper “infrastructure” to the gown, knew what he/she was doing.

If your gown of choice does not have a built in minimizer or enhancer, rely on the skill and advice of a trained consultant who can help you find the proper undergarments to make the most of you and the gown.

The proper bra and slip and other “control” items like Spanx can help you feel and look your very best on this important day.

Be sure that the undergarments you choose are neutral or skin toned.  You don’t need a surprise color peeping out or showing through.  Be sure that you try all of the undergarments on under your gown and have a friend take photographs from the front, back and side so you know all is secure.
Far from being uncomfortable, many of today’s undergarments are designed for both comfort and camouflage.

WEDDING NOTES™ – Rehearsal or not?

Unless you are planning to elope or get married by a judge in his/her chambers, you and your wedding party are going to participate in a wedding rehearsal.  Even if you have been a bridesmaid in six weddings of friends, this is your wedding and you will want a run through.
What are the things you will want to cover:

• The order of the processional and recessional: who goes with who and who stands where and for how long.
• Where the photographer and videographer will be located as well as any musicians who may be part of the ceremony.
• What music will be played – when and for how long.
• Who will cue the wedding party to enter and exit.
• The offiiciant’s instructions and cues for vows, reading, music and movement.
• The duties of the flower girl, ring bearer, best man and maid of honor.

Who will run the rehearsal?

• It usually handled by the wedding planner you have been working with and/or the wedding coordinator from the church or synagogue where you will be married.
• The officiant will have input and the final word.
• You may want to ask a family member or friend to oversee the rehearsal to make sure all the questions are covered, but be careful not to choose someone who could be at home on a battlefield.  These are not orders to be given, but friendly and caring requests.

You are about to star in the biggest “show” you’ve ever been in.  No show goes to Broadway without weeks of rehearsal.   You are only asking for your bridal party’s attention for one hour or so and then they will be fed and thanked at your rehearsal dinner.  Make both parts of the evening festive.

WEDDING NOTES™ – Bridesmaid Gifts?

If you are asking if you NEED to buy them gifts, the answer is no.  But before you heave a sigh of relief, think about what those 3 or 4 or 5 friends are doing for you.  They are buying a dress, shoes and maybe a headpiece of some sort.  They are giving up a weekend for you.  They are attending one or more showers on your behalf and are no doubt giving you a wedding gift besides.  The gift you choose for bridesmaids is to be accompanied by a huge thank you for being a part of the most important event of your life.

What to give?  Jewelry, accessories, personal items, monogrammed items or items in their personal favorite colors are good choices.  These gifts are given either during a bridesmaid’s luncheon or given at the rehearsal dinner along with the groom’s gifts to his attendants.

More and more brides are electing to host a spa day for all of the attendants.  A day of personal attention and luxury is sometimes marred by the conflict of schedules kept by very busy women but most agree it is worth the rearranging required to make it happen.

If you have attendants coming from out of town it would be a nice gift to contribute to the transportation if you are able and/or provide accommodations for her/their stay.

In addition, we are hearing of more and more brides sending thank you floral arrangements to the bridesmaid’s place of work once she has returned.  We love getting flowers delivered at work, but this of course, depends on where she works and if such a delivery is appropriate.  In that case, send the flowers or plant to her home with a special card attached.

For some wonderful ideas about what to give and when to give it, call us and talk with one of our experienced consultants.

WEDDING NOTES™ – Photo Tips

After all the planning and purchasing and partying, what remains are the treasured photographs of your wedding day.  For many brides, the album and collections of photos are the most important record of the biggest day of their lives.    We have worked with hundreds of brides and enjoy seeing their photos when they return from their honeymoon.  We continue to add to the tips we share with brides on how to insure that they love the results of the photographic record of their wedding day.

• If the ceremony and reception are going to be big, make sure the photographer you hire works with an assistant at least.  Many consultants will say that as a rule, one should plan on one photographer per 100 guests, but a skilled professional with an efficient assistant should be able to handle your ceremony and formal photos without a problem. 
• Reception photos require a few formal shots and some informal/occasion specific photographs.
• If you have special photos you want taken, be sure to make a list of those shots and review them with the photograph prior to the ceremony.  If out of town family members are attending and you want large family shots, let the photographer know that as well.
• Consider having many of your formal and unique shots taken before the ceremony.  Your makeup is fresh, the gown unwrinkled, your hair fabulous and you have the glow of anticipation.

Besides, it will cut down on the time spent on photographs before your reception.

• Spend time before the wedding showing the photographer some photos you’ve had taken in the past that you like.  He/She will get a sense of your good side and how best to position you.
• When you are posing for formal shots, don’t just stand there full face on to the camera.  Take a tip from pros and remember to put your weight on your back leg.  It doesn’t matter which one – left or right.  Then place the other leg slightly in front and face the camera.  This will provide a more pleasing angle from which to be photographed.
• Ask your personal attendant to stay close and have pressed powder and lip-gloss handy for shots.  Keep the shine on your face down and on your lips up.

For other tips and advice on how to look your best for those lasting memories, chat with one of our professional consultants.

WEDDING NOTES™ – Gifts to Remember

Selecting locations for the gift registries for one’s wedding is important and fun.  For your guest’s sake, it is wise to select at least three different resources.  Your purpose is to give guests a variety of options and price ranges when it comes time to select your gift.  To that end, experts recommend that you choose at a minimum, one “high-end” store, one moderate/lower priced retailer and perhaps one “non traditional” resource like a charity.  www.Idofoundation.org is a good place to start as it can help you register for donations to a variety of charities.
As you peruse items for your gift choices, most consultants would remind you to expand your vision of gifts to include items beyond the “usual”.  Many couples end up realizing that they have the best equipped kitchen in town, but have no bedroom furnishings.  Seek input and advice from friends and family before you sit down together to develop your list of preferences.  Their ideas may help you to include items that would be helpful that you would never have considered.
REAL SIMPLE magazine asked brides to identify items for the “Things I Wished I’d Registered For” list they were compiling.  Here are some of the items that made the list.

• Extra Wine Glasses
• Oven to table bake ware – one or two casseroles that can go to parties and events and look good.
• Fine China – too many couples are selecting only something practical to use now.  Brides miss having some fine china to use for special occasions and to “pass on”.
• Bar B Q Grill
• Art pieces for home décor (consider including an art gallery in your list of registry locations)
• A cordless drill
• Decorative pillows and throws for the living room – a quick and effective way to add dash
• Christmas decorations – something special and classic that the couple could bring out each year
• Outdoor gear and equipment like Coleman stoves, backyard hammocks or lawn chairs.

For more help with your gift registry, talk with one of our experienced consultants, as we feature gifts that will be remembered for a lifetime.

WEDDING NOTES™ – What Will It Cost?

The answer –as much or as little as you can afford!  You can have a lavish event that tops $100,000 or you can say your vows and entertain your close friends and family for $1500.   It all depends.  If you are planning a wedding on a budget, we offer some dollar saving tips.

• Avoid a summer wedding.  About 70% of US weddings take place between May and October.  As couples compete for vendors and venues, prices rise – because they can.  Depending on where you live, getting married in the “off” season months can save you money on reception expenses, floral arrangements and photography services.
• Choose a day other than Saturday when most weddings take place.  Marrying mid week or Friday night can save rates on room rentals, food and music.
• Look closely at your guest list.  Pare it down to include only those persons who are really close and have meaning in your life.
• Have your ceremony and reception in the same place.
• Choose an hour when a meal is not appropriate or necessary.  Morning weddings followed by a lovely brunch or a later afternoon ceremony followed by a cocktail reception are wonderful options.
• Use flowers that are in season and fill bouquets with more ribbon and fewer flowers.
• Rather than investing in large floral arrangements in the church and reception areas, consider using rental greenery.  It will fill spaces and create more warmth than large stylized arrangements can.
• A good wedding planner can save you time as well money; and most importantly help assure you of one perfect day.

Be honest about your budget and stick with it.  Look for ways to economize but know which items are the dearest to you.  Always remember that it is the marriage that is important – not the entertainment.  Feel free to discuss your plans and concerns with us.  We can help you have a gorgeous wedding and save you money in the process.

WEDDING NOTES™ – Online Gift Registries

While the bulk of wedding gift registries is still run through big box stores, department and specialty stores, there is a growing segment of that industry that is utilizing the reach and specificity of on line communications.  At one time considered somehow “tacky”, on line gift registries have come into their own and have proven to be a real advantage to couples and their guests.

It’s easy to build an online registry.  Your guests can shop from their homes (or phones), which is a huge convenience if they are out of town.  You can select the items you want in stores and then list them on your e- registry.  You can also list your registry on national sites like theKnot.com, weddingchannel.com if your chosen retailer has a partnership with those sites.

Once registered, you can log on to your site anytime to add, delete or change preferences.  You can also see what has already been purchased.  Some sites will include the information about who ordered what.  That will prove helpful when writing thank you notes.  Gift enclosure cards do not always remain attached to the box containing the gift.

There are also new sites that specialize in “non traditional” registry offerings.  While there is still discomfort around the concept of “registering for money”, some couples are utilizing these sites.  For couples who prefer to accumulate cash for a major purchase, there are www.depositagift.com  and www.myregistry.com. For couples who may prefer a fund for the future, there is a website called www.weddingfutures.com that specializes in gift stocks and/or mutual funds.

Whichever method you choose for your gift registries, remember that under no circumstances should those sites be included anywhere in your invitations.  Depend on members of the wedding party and family to spread the word about your gift registry preferences.

Don’t forget that although gift registries now include non-traditional items, gifts for a lifetime are remembered most.

For other helpful registry advice, speak with one of our experienced consultants.