We gladly help our brides solve awkward problems that can
arise when one is giving a party for 150 friends of the bride. No matter how
organized one is, it is nice to have an experience specialist – a knowledgeable
consultant or certified wedding planner – available for face-to-face problem
solving. Every wedding is unique and so can the problems that are presented by
the “people factor”.
How do I handle guests who have responded to our invitations and state
on the reply card that the number or guests planning to attend is larger than
the number we’ve invited?
If your quest count and budget can handle the number of
“extras” indicated, chalk it up to bad manners on the part of those quests and
just greet them with as much good grace as you can muster. However, if your
quest count is already pushing over the budget and you truly cannot absorb the
extra bodies, we suggest that you turn to your maid of honor, a tactful
bridesmaid or family member who may know the offending guests well. Ask this
person to call the guests in question and explain that the bride would love to
expand her guest list, but unfortunately it is not possible. The reason?
Budget, time, space concerns! If the person is offended – and some will be –
they are not true friends. Remember that they are the ones who have overstepped
the etiquette boundaries.
If you really want the invitees to attend in spite of their
children, and that’s where many overages originate, you might consider adding
to the reception card copy that reads “adult only reception”.